Man’s entitled family demands his fiancée wear colored contacts at her wedding because her eyes are “too intense,” she refuses and they turn on her: “Why are you being difficult?”

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    AITA for refusing to wear colored contacts for my wedding because my fiancé’s family thinks my natural eye color is "too intense"?

    m "I thought it was a weird joke"
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    So, I (28F) have naturally very light gray-blue eyes. It's something people have commented on my whole life-some say they look striking, others say they're a little "unnerving." I never thought much of it until I got engaged to my fiancé (30M).
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    His family is very traditional, and recently his mom pulled me aside and kindly suggested that I wear colored contacts on my wedding day because my "icy" eyes might look "too intense" in the photos and "soft brown would be more elegant." I laughed it off, thinking it was a weird joke. But then my
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    fiancé brought it up too, saying his family thinks it would look better if I went with a more 'warm and inviting' look for our wedding day.
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    I told him absolutely not—this is my natural eye color, and I'm not going to alter my appearance just to please his family. He said it's not a big deal and that he doesn't personally care, but he thinks I should do it just to "keep the peace."
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    Now his family is acting like I'm being difficult over something small, and my fiancé is frustrated that I'm turning this into an argument. But to me, it is a big deal. Why should I have to change something about myself just because they don't like it? AITAH for refusing?
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    TL;DR: My fiancé's family thinks my natural eye color is "too intense" and asked me to wear colored contacts for our wedding. I refused, and now they think I'm being difficult. AITAH?
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    edgy_intuitive • 5h ago What a weird ask. That is very offensive to your actual color. It's ride to be honest.
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    BeachinLife1 • 5h ago Oh my God, are you really going to marry into this family of imbeciles?
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    SunshinePrincess21 • 5h ago Ask them (especially your spineless fiancé) if your future children are going to have to wear contacts their entire lives so as not to unnerve anyone?
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    Chuck60s 5h ago I've never heard of such an asinine request in my whole life, and I'm 70, lol. The fact your fiance is agreeing is very disrespectful as well.
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    I would stick to my guns here, and if he doesn't like it, maybe the wedding should be postponed at the very least. I'm wondering if he acts like this about other things so disrespectfully. Good luck with this nonsense
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    Harv... • 5h ago 5h ago Edited 4h ago He said it's not a big deal and that he doesn't personally care If that were true, he would have shut down his family because this is just beyond ridiculous. Clearly, he does
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    care and he thinks its a big deal. Major red flag are being flown ΝΤΑ
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    OceanBlueRose • 5h ago That's an insane ask. What's even crazier is that your fiancé went along with it - that's a gigantic red flag, OP...
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    Particular_Title42 • 5h ago IT'S A TRAP!
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    Whereswolf • 4h ago I think you should tell your future MIL she need to loose at least 20 kg and color her hair to something more age appropiate (like grey because she's old)... you know, for the wedding pictures.
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    Honestly you should rethink this relationship. If your eye color doesn't bother him then he's a for being a momma's boy and taken her side in something totally stupid. And if your eyecolor does bother him you should dump him for being dishonest
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    and an idiot. Either way is this really something you want?
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    SteampunkHarley ⚫ 5h ago "sorry, I can't wear contacts" I cannot for the life of me wear them, so if anyone suggested I do so, especially for an asinine reason, I would have some very choice words and questioning who I was marrying.
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    Your beau has no spine. Is this how you want your marriage to go? Where he doesn't have your back?

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